By: Brianne Manz of Stroller In The City
Teaching your children about kindness and what it actually means is something that I hope to instill within my children, always. My children are at such a young age right now 5, 2, and 1 respectively, but that does not stop me from my daily teaching of how we can be kind and “nice” to others.
I think the first fundamentals would be saying “please” and “thank you”. These two (well 3) little words are something my children understand. I am proud when we are dining out and the waitress brings them a glass of water and my two oldest will reply “Thank You”. I definitely feel like a proud mommy and I’ve accomplished a parenting milestone there.
Another topic I like to teach my children is sharing. If they plan to bring a toy to the playground, I make sure to have a conversation that if they take it outdoors they need to share it with their peers. I make sure to praise them when they are sharing and how wonderful it is to share with others. I make sure to say, “doesn’t it feel nice to share”, so they know what it feels like when they are doing something kind. Now if a child doesn’t share with them, I try to have them figure it out on their own, but if they cannot, I just remove them from the situation or distract them with something else. And, we will usually talk about that child not sharing when we get home so they understand.
Love, is a word that I use about 1000 times a day to my children. I teach them to love one another and everyone around them. I hope their hearts will continue to grow, and that innocent little souls will stay as is forever. They all have so much love in their hearts.
A work in progress for me at the moment is to teach them to appreciate. With the work I do, I will admit they are a bit spoiled. They get to visit places that I am just now visiting the first time as an adult, and I want them to realize how lucky they are to have these things; because when I was younger I didn’t. I think my oldest gets this concept and he will often say thank you for taking him and asked if he’s lucky because he got to experience this.
I remember as a child, my parents always taught me to respect your elders. This of course was instilled in me and I would always look up to my older relatives and adult figured in my life. I was taught to always listen to them, as they were older and wiser.
I think there are different ways to go about teaching kindness within your kids and there is no wrong or right way to go about doing so. But I think if we all make it our jobs to love a little more, give a little more, the world will be a happier place!
Brianne Manz was once a fashion showroom owner now turned mom and blogger/writer. She lives in NYC with her husband, three children and two dogs and enjoys her fast paced city life. Brianne's blog Stroller In The City boasts about city living, kids fashion, gear, and all things that are mommy.
Kinder by the Child Project
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